Look Mumma, I’m Learning About Consent!
Hi Mumma, it’s important for me to understand about consent and feeling at ease with physical love. Here's why it's alright to avoid forcing a hug and how you can teach me to respect boundaries:
Understanding Consent in Early Childhood.
Model Consent:
Always ask if I can hug or kiss you. For example, "May I give you a kiss?" If I say no, please respect my decision. This shows me the importance of my body-related choices.
Rethink Tickling:
Stop tickling as soon as I say “Stop” or “No.” It’s crucial to respect these words to avoid mixed messages about consent and boundaries.
Teach that consent is mutual.
Explain that, just as I can refuse to be touched, I must also respect other people's wishes. This helps me understand mutual respect and boundaries.
Fostering an Open Dialogue around Consent
Encourage questions:
When I have body-related questions, please be direct and honest. Use accurate anatomical vocabulary and ensure that I understand that curiosity about the body is acceptable and healthy.
Provide alternatives to physical affection:
Not all children enjoy hugs and kisses. Provide alternatives, such as a fist bump, elbow tap, or wave. Simplify options for young children.
Empower Firm Responses:
Teach me to use a firm “NO!” or “STOP!” if I’m uncomfortable. Role-playing these scenarios can help me feel more confident in asserting my boundaries.
Provide Choices in Other Areas:
Let me decide what to wear and other things that will happen during the day. This gives me strength and helps me remember that I am in charge of my choices.
Conclusion: Respecting Children’s Autonomy Enhances Safety
You keep me safe and secure by teaching me about permission and honouring my choices about physical touch. Giving me the confidence to talk about how comfortable I feel is good for my general health. Thanks a lot, Mom!