Hi Mumma, Let’s Learn About Limits Together!
Setting limits helps me understand what’s okay and what’s not. Here’s how we can do it together:
Show Understanding of My Perspective
Empathy First:
Acknowledge my feelings and desires.
How to Implement:
If I don’t want to leave the park, say, "I see you're having a lot of fun and wish we could stay longer." This helps with emotional regulation and shows understanding of my perspective.
State the Limit and Stay Firm
Clear Communication:
Tell me the limit clearly and kindly.
How to Implement:
Say, "We have to go in now because it is becoming late," and get down on my level. You wish to jump like a bunny. Or are you going to walk home like a bear? This is important for your child's discipline and for helping to create boundaries.
Be prepared for an emotional reaction.
Managing Feelings:
Understand that I am uncomfortable with setting boundaries.
How to Implement:
Stay calm and offer comfort Say, "I see you are sad because we have to leave the field," Sadness is acceptable. Give me a hug and start a new hobby to divert my attention. Support emotional regulation and be consistent with parenting strategies to manage children's boundaries.
Conclusion: The role of consistency in setting boundaries
Setting boundaries made me feel safe and helped me learn how to manage my emotions. Thank you for understanding and supporting me through my feelings, Mom!